Don't Be Afraid To Sit Alone

In the last year I've dealt with some personal experiences, regarding the people I considered friends, that have helped me have better judgement when choosing the people I spend my time with. I suppose everyone comes to a time in their life when they have this realization. Well...I've come to mine. This is for anyone and everyone from children, preteens, teenagers, to adults, or even if you're 99, this pertains to you. 

I recently read a quote by Booker T. Washington that said, "Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company". Reading that was like getting punched square in the face, and this is why. I've made it a personal goal to work as hard as I can every day to better myself as a young woman. To not be judgmental in any way, to be gracious and understanding, to try my very best to not worry (the biggest obstacle for me), to show love even in the most frustrating situations, and to stay focused on the path God is guiding me on. These are all things I work on every day, I'm not saying I am these things. God will always be working on me and bettering me. In recent weeks I've found myself surrounded by people who really don't consider me as a friend, and people who live life in, what I call, a "masked" way. In public one way, behind the scenes a totally different person. I've sat back and watched as others are made fun of and mocked for simply being themselves, and the list goes on and on. The thought then came to me, "Why am I here?". As I removed myself from the situation and found myself sitting alone for hours and hours its like I almost felt God's arms wrap around me and say "That's it Em. You're getting it now.". There's a peace when you know you've done the right thing and stood your ground and stood for what's right. "It is better to be alone than in bad company."

I want the naive 14 year old who finally gets in with the in-crowd to snap into reality before she wastes years with people who could care less that she's even around. I wish I had realized sooner the truth of a true friend, and spent my time with people who share the same standards and morals as myself. When you have standards and spend time with people who don't, it makes sticking to your word so much more difficult. 

So moral of the story, don't be afraid to sit alone. 1) you're not really alone, God is there. 2) if you take a step back and look at the people in your life, there is always those of good quality who have always been there. Reach out to them and reconnect. 3) Please please PLEASE stand your ground! Being cool, fitting in, being the life of the party is the lowest of standards you can set for yourself. You were set apart for a divine purpose, not to fit in. Please understand the importance of this! 

"Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm." - Proverbs 13:20

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